Relationships are difficult to manage, depending on how deep or distant the relationship is. The closer people get, the deeper the relationship gets. The deeper it gets, the more personal and more fulfilling it gets. The more personal it gets, the more problematic it gets.
When conflicts arise in relationships, it is easy to give undeserved attention to the problem than to seeking solutions. Every relational problem can be resolved if the people involved are committed to finding solutions swiftly before problems fester. Problem resolution becomes hopeless when one is committed to punishing themselves or the person at fault. Here is a 5-step problem resolution process
(1) Admit it. Quickly acknowledge that there is a problem between you.
(2) Face it. Quickly sit down and face the problem head-on together. Avoiding problems wont make them go away; it complicates them
(3) Confess it; don’t blame. Even if the other person is 99% guilty, choose to be the mature one and be the first to confess your 1%.
(4) Value it. Just because there is a problem doesn’t mean the relationship must be dissolved and the person banished.
(5) Laugh at it. If you overthink and overanalyze the problem you may end up overcorrecting it. Lighten up. There is no sanctity in seriousness. Laugh your way to a better relationship
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