Rules on interaction between clergy men and church-going women

With Kenyan women literally behaving like headless chicken before members of the clergy, especially those who pass themselves off as miracle workers who can heal all manner of diseases, solve marital and business problems and bring the dead back to life — only after one plants a seed — I feel it’s time I gave them some rules of engagement.
First, if you are a married woman it doesn’t matter if your intimate body parts, like your breasts, are burning with pain, letting any other male who is not a doctor to touch them in the name of praying or performing a miracle is a no, no!
Male gynaecologist
I find it a bit ridiculous that some of our women blush and feel embarrassed whenever a male gynaecologist is examining them, but when they go to church, they lose all sense of embarrassment and decency with some seeming to enjoy the pastor’s touch, and worse still, in front of people.
Secondly, women should keep in mind that the most important person they should love and adore is God not their pastors, bishops, prophets and whatever other fancy names they call themselves.
It beats me how nowadays women fear men of God more than God himself. Some do not even read the Bible for themselves and simply go by the pastor’s own interpretation of the holy book. That is how women have found themselves literally worshiping men of God and doing their bidding more than God’s will. It’s a pity.
But it is time women sobered up and adhered to biblical teachings, not what the ‘pastors’ and ‘bishops’ say.
Thirdly, ordinarily women are stingy with their money.
Ask any married man who has a working wife and he will tell you that his partner never wastes an opportunity to remind him that his money is theirs and her money is hers and hers alone to do with as she deems fit.
But throw a pastor onto the scene and the woman will open up her purse with very little persuasion all in the name of ‘planting a seed’.
Defending pastors
But it is high time women stopped supporting the dreams of these cons who use the pulpit to swindle even the sick of their hard earned money.
Lastly, women should cease defending pastors blindly. For instance, in the recent expose of self-styled Prophet Kanyari — who passes himself as a prophet — some women almost went physical on KTN’s Mohammed Ali and John-Allan Namu in defense of their infallible pastor.
Dear sisters, a true man of God doesn’t need women fighting for him because he knows there is a Man above who is capable of fighting on his behalf. He will ask God to fight his battles. Get it?

Men facing extinction!? My thoughts

I know ya ll ladies will feel me on this, and I know ya ll men will deny but just stop and think about.
it does not apply to everyone, and its not gospel truth but I can BET a lot of you can relate THE EXTINCTION oF MeN Don't say I didn't warn you!
In the study of nature and its evolution, the animals that ended up being extinct were the ones that were unable to adapt to changes happening in their environment, or were unable to shift to areas that could harbor their existence: Google the history of dinosaurs!!
Well.....I foresee another species getting extinct and its also for the above same reasons.
Point to note here, am not an advocate for this whole women independence CR**!
I am the Chief advocate for women being treated with dignity and respect but I draw the line when it comes to women playing men's roles!
I might change my mind when men start playing women's roles.....ummmm!! on second thought, no I WONT! It might nit be a good idea!!
Men should be men and women-women, and we should help each other with our roles because society has changed since the days of our forefathers and hence we need to adapt.
That said, I beg to ask, WHERE DID ALL THE MEN GO?
Men, there were warning signs of attack to your existence that you should have noted and stepped up your game to.
Warning signs included;
when women began wearing trousers,
when women started doing office jobs,
when women became managers in the office jobs,
when women began hiring for office jobs,
 when women began chasing/pursuing men,
 when women began chamas,
 when women began activist groups to talk about how useless men are,
 When women gave up and started seeing each other!
 when the first vibrator was created !!
warning warning warning! One of you should have said 'wait a minute, do you see what I see?' But you all chose to ignore the warning signs. And to make things worse, you continued to deteriorate.
 I miss the days when men were men! I miss the days;
when men would call girls on their parent's landline number because there were no cell phones
 when men would queue at the telephone booths with 5sh coins to call their ladies for 10minutes!
 when the men would make a date and pick her up from home, instead of saying 'lets meet there!'
 when men would actually make an effort and dress up when taking ladies out,
 when men would call to apologise after an argument on phone 5 minutes later,
 when men would stay and talk things out instead of walking away after a fight,
 when men would be patient with ladies and not expect sex on the second date!
 when men would chase after the girl they loved even if it took months, instead of running to the next available skirt,
 when men would marry women of substance and not just a pretty face, fake boobs and long curly weaves.....then go ahead and have affairs with the ones they should have married in the 1st place!
 when men would not expect their girls to work the same job as they do during the day, get home and be househelps/cooks/cleaners for them, then their sex toy before bed, and still expect her to meet half the bills at the end of the month, and carry their babies while still doing all the above chores.... OMG, no wonder they are getting extinct.
If I were a woman, and I had a well paying job, a few investments, a beautiful home, a sexy ride, a fantastic support structure of friends and family, and even say a beautiful child, then the only reason i need a man is for love.
So if my man cannot show me the love I need, cannot treat me like a lady, then why would I want to be with one???
No wonder all these successful women have kitchen totos for boyfriends, no wonder vibrators are on such high demand, no wonder women are so angry!
If I were a man, I would recognize the threat and adapt, by learning all I needed to make a woman happy.
After all be smart enough to know that once your woman is happy, you can have everything you want! EVERYTHING! ....But as a man I don't think I would not be smart enough to think like that!
Hence tick-tock, tick-tock, the clock to extinction continues ticking!
Oh well....my honest opinion...

Career and dress code relationship

Years ago I worked as a field auditor for a microfinance in Kenya. I had worked my way through the ranks and field operations and definitely identified more with the field workers than the "suits." (Even though most of the guys referred to me as "college boy.")
One day the department manager stopped by. She asked about my background. She asked about my education. She asked about my career aspirations.
"I'd like to be a supervisor," I answered, "and then someday I'd like your job - Audit Manager"
She smiled and said, "Good for you. I like a guy with dreams." Then she paused.
"But if that's what you really want," she said, looking me in the eyes, "first you need to start looking the part."
I knew what she was saying but decided to play dumb. "What do you mean?" I asked.
"Look around," she said. "How do supervisors dress? How does their hair look? How do they act? No one will think of you as supervisor material until they can actually see you as a supervisor -- and right now you look nothing like a supervisor."
She was right. I was wearing ratty jeans with a couple of holes. (Why wouldn't I? I worked around dust in the field and ride on a motorbike and hit sun all day.) I was wearing a cut-off t-shirt. And my hair was pretty long, even for the day. (No excuse for that one.)
"But shouldn't how well I do my job matter more than how I look?" I asked.
"In a perfect world your performance is all that would matter," she added. "But we don't live in a perfect world. Take my advice: if you want to be promoted into a certain position... make sure you look like the people in that position."
I've thought about that conversation a lot over the years.
I've hired and promoted people who looked the part... and they turned out to be all show and no go. I've hired and promoted people who didn't look the part at all... and they turned out to be superstars. I'm convinced that how you look and, at least to a large degree how you act, has nothing to do with your skill and talent and fit for a job.
Still, she's right: the world isn't perfect. People still make assumptions about us based on irrelevant things like clothing and mannerisms... and height and weight and age and gender and ethnicity and tons of other qualities and attributes that have absolutely no bearing on a person's performance.
So are you better off trying to conform?
Unfortunately, YES. The people doing the hiring and promoting are people -- and people tend to be biased towards the comfortable and the familiar. People tend to hire and promote people who are much like themselves. (If you remind me of me... then you must be awesome, right?)
Besides, highly diverse teams are like unicorns -- we all know what one should look like, but unless you're a robot, you rarely encounter one in the wild.
And don't forget that hiring or promoting someone who conforms, even if only in dress and deportment, makes a high percentage of the people making those decisions feel like they're taking a little bit less of a risk. I know I was viewed -- admittedly with good reason -- as a wild card, and I'm sure that impacted my promotability.
But still: are you better off being yourself and trusting that people will value your skills, experience, talent... and uniqueness?
Sadly I think that's a move fraught with professional peril. If your goal is to get hired or promoted then expressing your individuality could make that goal much harder to accomplish. (Of course if being yourself in all ways is what is most important to you, by all means let your freak flag fly. Seriously.)
I have no way of knowing for sure, but changing how I dressed -- and in a larger sense, tempering some of the attitude I displayed -- would likely have helped me get promoted sooner. For a long time I didn't look the part, didn't act the part... and I'm sure that made me a less attractive candidate.
But that's just what I think; what's more interesting is what you think about fitting in and conforming.
Has the way you look affected your career? Have you ever decided to conform... or not to conform... and what difference did that make?