There are so many fantastic pieces of advice for job seekers, so many resources out there to assist you (myself included), but if you don’t get out of bed in the morning with a positive mindset, then the battle is already lost. You’ll muddle through the day, making toast here, having a cup of coffee there. Maybe you’ll write a few articles on LinkedIn to get a few “likes” for some self-affirmation. Before you know it, the day will have passed you by, and you will have achieved very little. In my opinion, there are ten mindsets that are vital for any job seeker to adopt first thing in the morning until last thing at night. You must eat, sleep and breathe them:
Accountability – Only you are in charge of your future. Make sure you explore every avenue.
Self-Discipline – Structure your days as if you are at work. It is so easy to give into pleasant distractions when things are quiet on the job search front. Stay focussed, or you may miss your chance.
Determination – Job searching calls for persistence and a lot of time! You are up against many other job seekers in the same boat – make sure that you go the extra mile. Set high standards for your search, and never let them waver.
Positivity – “I have a lot to offer and would love to be able to share what I know and what I can do.” Find positives wherever you can – they give you fuel for the journey ahead. You do have a lot to offer, never forget it.
Vision – Live in the future, don’t wallow in the past. Aim for where you want to be, without being overly tied to where you were. Blank sheet of paper time – make it colourful.
Respect Yourself - Keep yourself physically active, retain your professional persona, and don’t let yourself go. This is no time to slouch around in smelly t-shirts with empty pizza boxes everywhere.
Allow Negativity – There will be times in the day when you might feel a bit down. This is normal, but you have to learn to “snap out of it” and get on with making a difference.
Keep Growing – Even though you may not be working, you must keep on top of your ability to do your job. Maybe start a blog, go to networking events, take part in webinars. Stay confident in your abilities and knowledge.
Do It Now – There is nothing easier than to say that you will do something tomorrow. Whole weeks can pass if you have this negative mindset. There is nothing like the present. Make it happen
Celebrate Success – You can’t keep up a positive attitude without giving yourself a few “pats on the back” every now and again.
A final aspect of any job search that I would like to mention is that little word “luck.” With the right attitude and approach, that little “break” that you need is ever more likely. If you are slouched on the sofa feeling sorry for yourself, then it may well move onto someone more worthy. Put yourself in the best position possible to catch that fish, believe that it will happen, and be ready to reel it in when you see the float dip below the water….. Good luck!
Wednesday, 30 July 2014
Thursday, 24 July 2014
How to sack your employees
For All The Managers Out There: Here is How To Sack Your Employees
How many employees have you fired so far?
According to Claire Burke, a guardian professional, sacking employees is a scenario that managers dread since it can end up in tears, tempers and if you get it wrong a costly employment tribunal. She says that sacking an employee will never be pleasant but it is a necessary part of the job as a manager. So what is the right way to do it she asks?
Gerry Peyton, Director of consultancy HRPlus says that before it even gets to that point, it's necessary for managers to address problems when they start to emerge and resist the temptation to do nothing.
Peyton says that two things that come into play.
“First, good old human nature means none of us look forward to dealing with what we see as a difficult situation,” he explains
“Secondly, I have a feeling – this is based on managers I've spoken to over the years – they feel that the pendulum has swung towards the employee and it's going to cause them great difficulty and legal challenges."
From the beginning, the manager is going to look for reasons how they can avoid confronting an employee.
Peyton advices managers to tackle employee irregularities, such as frequently turning up to work late, early on instead of confronting an employee about something that happened months ago.
They should describe the problem to the employee and be as specific as possible in the detail, then explain the impact of their behaviour and how it needs to change.
He adds, "By talking specifics it stops it becoming personal. You've got to be absolutely clear about what you expect from them, and clear about the consequences. Generally a lot of employees wake up and do something about it."
The manager should be dealing with the issue at this early stage, rather than human resources, says Peyton.
"It's easier for a manager to say, 'I've noticed in the last couple of days you've come in late', than someone in human resources saying, 'I hear you've been coming in late'. I don't think managers should be on the phone to HR every time they speak to an employee about their performance."
However, if the problems persist, there's a clear legal process that must be followed. A meeting will be arranged, and the employee should be told beforehand what it is about.
When breaking the news, be sensitive about the timing, advises Bogdan Costea, an expert in performance management at Lancaster University Management School. Leaving someone hanging over the weekend is not the way to do it. "I think leaving people on a Friday with that news is bad," says Costea.
Lara Morgan, founder of Pacific Direct, cautions against letting the meeting go on for too long and advices to keep it short.
If someone responds badly Morgan says that managers should be firm but fair, and should not drag it out. And that they should not do it publicly, insensitively and on their own.
Peyton says that a meeting should be a conversation rather than a telling off. And if tempers flare, the manager must remain calm and refuse to be drawn into a slanging match thereby giving the person chance to vent their anger.
"Sometimes, it's important to let the employee express the emotion; it could be difficult for them to listen to anyone else until they get it off their chest. Have a quick break if tempers need to be cooled."
Should a manager be sympathetic? “Be empathetic to a point, but don't be emotional,” advises Peyton.
Briggs advises telling staff why the person was let go. "Keep the team informed. You don't want them to think you are slashing staff. Make sure they know that person was let go for the benefit of the company and the team."
How many employees have you fired so far?
According to Claire Burke, a guardian professional, sacking employees is a scenario that managers dread since it can end up in tears, tempers and if you get it wrong a costly employment tribunal. She says that sacking an employee will never be pleasant but it is a necessary part of the job as a manager. So what is the right way to do it she asks?
Gerry Peyton, Director of consultancy HRPlus says that before it even gets to that point, it's necessary for managers to address problems when they start to emerge and resist the temptation to do nothing.
Peyton says that two things that come into play.
“First, good old human nature means none of us look forward to dealing with what we see as a difficult situation,” he explains
“Secondly, I have a feeling – this is based on managers I've spoken to over the years – they feel that the pendulum has swung towards the employee and it's going to cause them great difficulty and legal challenges."
From the beginning, the manager is going to look for reasons how they can avoid confronting an employee.
Peyton advices managers to tackle employee irregularities, such as frequently turning up to work late, early on instead of confronting an employee about something that happened months ago.
They should describe the problem to the employee and be as specific as possible in the detail, then explain the impact of their behaviour and how it needs to change.
He adds, "By talking specifics it stops it becoming personal. You've got to be absolutely clear about what you expect from them, and clear about the consequences. Generally a lot of employees wake up and do something about it."
The manager should be dealing with the issue at this early stage, rather than human resources, says Peyton.
"It's easier for a manager to say, 'I've noticed in the last couple of days you've come in late', than someone in human resources saying, 'I hear you've been coming in late'. I don't think managers should be on the phone to HR every time they speak to an employee about their performance."
However, if the problems persist, there's a clear legal process that must be followed. A meeting will be arranged, and the employee should be told beforehand what it is about.
When breaking the news, be sensitive about the timing, advises Bogdan Costea, an expert in performance management at Lancaster University Management School. Leaving someone hanging over the weekend is not the way to do it. "I think leaving people on a Friday with that news is bad," says Costea.
Lara Morgan, founder of Pacific Direct, cautions against letting the meeting go on for too long and advices to keep it short.
If someone responds badly Morgan says that managers should be firm but fair, and should not drag it out. And that they should not do it publicly, insensitively and on their own.
Peyton says that a meeting should be a conversation rather than a telling off. And if tempers flare, the manager must remain calm and refuse to be drawn into a slanging match thereby giving the person chance to vent their anger.
"Sometimes, it's important to let the employee express the emotion; it could be difficult for them to listen to anyone else until they get it off their chest. Have a quick break if tempers need to be cooled."
Should a manager be sympathetic? “Be empathetic to a point, but don't be emotional,” advises Peyton.
Briggs advises telling staff why the person was let go. "Keep the team informed. You don't want them to think you are slashing staff. Make sure they know that person was let go for the benefit of the company and the team."
Monday, 21 July 2014
How to be a remarkable person
Don’t be just original… be Remarkable! What I think makes someone truly remarkable!
The next list is my own opinion and ways of being a remarkable human being in life. You see it has always been a dream of mine to be someone who leaves a mark in history, and for some it may seem a little far-fetched, but I believe that I can. So the following is what I try to live by.
Be Authentic
This is not a very common thing these days believe it or not. When it is there it will simply shine and show through your words and actions and can be something truly powerful for building connections and bonds with people around you.
Live your Life your way
To be honest there is nothing special or remarkable about someone who is trying to fit in and be like other people. Be yourself and be the best that you can be.
Help Others around You without Wanting Anything Back
Take time out to help the people around you. Give some of your time, money, and resources and love to help people and expect nothing in return.
Don’t Try to Be Mr or Miss Perfect
Try to be creative and be abstract rather than trying to live up to other people’s expectation. You can achieve and find great and beautiful things without what people expect from you and living up to some consensus of being perfect.
Face Your Fears
People who run away and avoid things in their lives will never become remarkable. Get the courage to face your fears and conquer them.
Come up with your own Quotes and Sayings
Come up with your own quirky and original sayings. People will take notice and it may even catch on. By coming up with your own original sayings you stand out from everyone else who just uses clichés.
Question the normality around you
Just because something is done by everyone else in the world in a particular way does not always mean that it is the only way or the right way of doing things. Question the norm and don’t be afraid to do something differently.
Take a leap of faith
Be the person who does the things that others don’t. If they are too scared to do something but yet you feel that you aren’t scared yourself to do it, then just go out and do it with all your love, energy and passion.
Learn to say NO
If someone or something goes against your principles and thoughts and you aren’t up for doing thing then there is no harm in saying the word “NO”. Yes you might end up offending some people, but the majority will end up having more respect for you for having your boundaries and sticking to them.
Be a Leader
Don’t be a follower… be a leader! Build up a group of like-minded individuals who will follow you and use your power and strength to make a positive change in the world.
Be Optimistic
Optimism and smiles are contagious. Make the world a happy and positive place
Be confident
Know what you want and be confident that you are going to get it. I think that all remarkable people share the trait of confidence.
Be Humble
Arrogance and vanity are not traits to associate with people you respect and think highly of. No matter how good, famous or wealthy you are, stay humble with both feet on the ground.
You Are Enough
Have the mind-set that you have all the assets to be remarkable. You have talent and you have a gift. Share it with the world.
Create something that brings joy to the world
Be artistic and express your talent in a form that it can be shared with everyone without the expectation of getting rich from it. It’s your gift to the world.
Invent something that everyone needs
There could be one little thing that seems so simple yet will make the lives of millions of people so much easier.
Push the limits
If you can do something that nobody else has been able to achieve, then you will not only get noticed but you will certainly be remarkable. You may just be the psychological inspiration for many others to get past the level that was always thought of as unbreakable.
Think Better
Be a step ahead of everyone else. Think faster, better or more efficiently.
Read More Interesting Things
The more you read, the more you shape your personality. The more interesting things that you read, the more likely you are to become an interesting and remarkable person.
Don’t Be Boring
One requirement of being remarkable is that you are not boring. Be original, fun and get things done.
Stop Making Excuses
Either do something or don’t do it at all. Don’t be someone who always has excuses to stall doing something or justify why you didn’t do something.
Never Settle for Average
Never be content with average or mediocrity. When other people give up and settle, carry on going and be better than them.
Do What You Say
If people can rely on you and they know that when you say something that you will do it, you are well on your way to being remarkable. If you make a promise, keep it.
Don’t Aim to Be Remarkable
As contradictory as it sounds, most remarkable people never set out to be remarkable. They did what they loved and were really passionate and that is what got them to being remarkable
The next list is my own opinion and ways of being a remarkable human being in life. You see it has always been a dream of mine to be someone who leaves a mark in history, and for some it may seem a little far-fetched, but I believe that I can. So the following is what I try to live by.
Be Authentic
This is not a very common thing these days believe it or not. When it is there it will simply shine and show through your words and actions and can be something truly powerful for building connections and bonds with people around you.
Live your Life your way
To be honest there is nothing special or remarkable about someone who is trying to fit in and be like other people. Be yourself and be the best that you can be.
Help Others around You without Wanting Anything Back
Take time out to help the people around you. Give some of your time, money, and resources and love to help people and expect nothing in return.
Don’t Try to Be Mr or Miss Perfect
Try to be creative and be abstract rather than trying to live up to other people’s expectation. You can achieve and find great and beautiful things without what people expect from you and living up to some consensus of being perfect.
Face Your Fears
People who run away and avoid things in their lives will never become remarkable. Get the courage to face your fears and conquer them.
Come up with your own Quotes and Sayings
Come up with your own quirky and original sayings. People will take notice and it may even catch on. By coming up with your own original sayings you stand out from everyone else who just uses clichés.
Question the normality around you
Just because something is done by everyone else in the world in a particular way does not always mean that it is the only way or the right way of doing things. Question the norm and don’t be afraid to do something differently.
Take a leap of faith
Be the person who does the things that others don’t. If they are too scared to do something but yet you feel that you aren’t scared yourself to do it, then just go out and do it with all your love, energy and passion.
Learn to say NO
If someone or something goes against your principles and thoughts and you aren’t up for doing thing then there is no harm in saying the word “NO”. Yes you might end up offending some people, but the majority will end up having more respect for you for having your boundaries and sticking to them.
Be a Leader
Don’t be a follower… be a leader! Build up a group of like-minded individuals who will follow you and use your power and strength to make a positive change in the world.
Be Optimistic
Optimism and smiles are contagious. Make the world a happy and positive place
Be confident
Know what you want and be confident that you are going to get it. I think that all remarkable people share the trait of confidence.
Be Humble
Arrogance and vanity are not traits to associate with people you respect and think highly of. No matter how good, famous or wealthy you are, stay humble with both feet on the ground.
You Are Enough
Have the mind-set that you have all the assets to be remarkable. You have talent and you have a gift. Share it with the world.
Create something that brings joy to the world
Be artistic and express your talent in a form that it can be shared with everyone without the expectation of getting rich from it. It’s your gift to the world.
Invent something that everyone needs
There could be one little thing that seems so simple yet will make the lives of millions of people so much easier.
Push the limits
If you can do something that nobody else has been able to achieve, then you will not only get noticed but you will certainly be remarkable. You may just be the psychological inspiration for many others to get past the level that was always thought of as unbreakable.
Think Better
Be a step ahead of everyone else. Think faster, better or more efficiently.
Read More Interesting Things
The more you read, the more you shape your personality. The more interesting things that you read, the more likely you are to become an interesting and remarkable person.
Don’t Be Boring
One requirement of being remarkable is that you are not boring. Be original, fun and get things done.
Stop Making Excuses
Either do something or don’t do it at all. Don’t be someone who always has excuses to stall doing something or justify why you didn’t do something.
Never Settle for Average
Never be content with average or mediocrity. When other people give up and settle, carry on going and be better than them.
Do What You Say
If people can rely on you and they know that when you say something that you will do it, you are well on your way to being remarkable. If you make a promise, keep it.
Don’t Aim to Be Remarkable
As contradictory as it sounds, most remarkable people never set out to be remarkable. They did what they loved and were really passionate and that is what got them to being remarkable
Sunday, 20 July 2014
Sorry, I don't owe you an explanation!
Many choices we make in life—ranging from what we do, to how we conduct ourselves, and who we interact with—are subject to prying questions and commentary from those around us. Family members, friends, and even total strangers, it often seems like everyone has an opinion on the things we do, no matter how small or insignificant those things might seem to us.
Sometimes people go so far as to ask you to explain yourself for the decisions or choices you make in your own life. You might feel obliged to respond, but some things are really no one else’s business and you don’t owe anyone an explanation at all for the following 15 things—though you think you do.
1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your living situation.
Whether you are cohabiting with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, crashing in different motel rooms across the country, or living with your parents for a while when you are past your twenties, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for who you live with and why if you don’t want to. If you are fully aware of your living situation, then it means you have your own reasons for being in that situation that are nobody else’s business.
2. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life priorities.
You have your own ideas about the things that would make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, your core priorities will be different from the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you determine is your core priority in life. That is your personal business not other people’s business.
3. You don’t owe anyone an apology if you are not sorry.
If you don’t regret your actions, still think someone is wrong about something or don’t care much for their forgiveness, you don’t have to apologize. Many people are too quick to offer apologies and try to mend wounds that are not yet ready to be mended, which only serves to aggravate the wound and bring more problems. You really don’t have to apologize if you are not sorry or your side of the story hasn’t been heard.
4. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for requiring alone time.
You might worry that you will come across as “rude,” “anti-social” or “aloof” when you cancel plans or other obligations because you need some time alone to reboot, unwind or just enjoy a good book by yourself. However, spending time alone is a completely normal, natural and necessary practice that more people should adopt. Take your alone time confidently because you don’t owe anybody an explanation for it.
5. You don’t owe anyone your agreement on their personal beliefs.
Just because someone shares their personal beliefs passionately doesn’t mean you have to sit there and nod in approval to everything they say. If you don’t share in their beliefs, it is unfair to yourself and to the other person to suppress your own thoughts and feelings and pretend you agree with them. It’s okay and better to disagree with them gracefully instead of bottling up your disapproval and frustrations.
6. You don’t owe anyone a yes to everything they say.
You have a right to say no whenever there is no compelling reason to say yes. In fact, the most successful people in the world are those who have mastered the art of saying no to everything that is not a priority. Acknowledge other people’s kindness and be grateful for it, but don’t be afraid to politely decline anything that takes your focus away from your core goals and priorities. That’s how to get ahead.
7. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your physical appearance.
You might be slender, plump, tall, short, pretty, plain or whatever, but you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for why you look how you do. Your physical appearance is your own business and you are obligated only to yourself. Physical appearance shouldn’t determine your self-worth.
8. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your food preferences.
There are certain foods that you just don’t like at all for different reasons, including taste preference and health issues. You don’t have to explain to anyone at all why you prefer certain foods. Your food preference is a matter that is best left to you. If anyone pesters you about why you are eating (or not eating) certain foods, shrug it off and just say you feel better eating (or not eating) those foods.
9. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your sex life.
As long as it happens with another consenting adult, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for where, when and how you conduct your sex life. You can wait for marriage, try one-night stands or experiment with same sex encounters to your heart’s pleasure and still not have to explain your sexual preferences to anybody.
10. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your career or personal life choices.
Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and “having a life.” The decision is not always easy and you might end up choosing work, not because you don’t care about your family or social life, but because you are working on something that will give you security in the future. Either way, you don’t owe others an explanation for choosing a career over your personal life (or vice versa) as long as you are confident about what you are doing and why you are doing it.
11. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your religious or political views.
Whether you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim, that is your own personal choice. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you are what you are and believe what you believe. If someone can’t accept you for who you are, that is their personal dogma—not yours.
12. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being single.
Whether you are single by design or by default that is nobody’s business. Being single is not a personality disorder. You are free to be in a relationship or not. Besides, you are far more than your relationship status and singlehood is just one of those social labels no one should really care about.
13. You don’t owe anyone a date just because they asked.
Someone might be nice, good looking and you may even be a little interested, but you don’t owe them a date just because they ask. If you feel deep down you don’t want to go on that date, then don’t. You may offer a reason for declining, but keep it brief and stick to your decision.
14. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your decision about marriage.
Whether or not you choose to get married and have kids or stay unmarried and be childfree, that is your own personal decision. Even your mom who is dying for grandchildren should understand that marriage is a personal decision and not suited for everyone. She should respect your decision about it no matter how hard it is to swallow.
15. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationship choices.
Sometimes people make inappropriate commentary about your romantic relationship(s), which is really none of their business. You might overhear comments like you are not the “perfect couple” or you should find someone else. However, you are not answerable to anyone but yourself for your relationship choices. Live your life and never, ever leave or stay in a relationship just because someone else says you have to. Make your own mistakes if you must, but learn from them always.
Friday, 18 July 2014
4 habits of unhappy people and how to fix them
4 habits of unhappy people and how to fix them
Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’” ~Marianne Williamson
Have you ever felt that something was missing in your life?
Who am I kidding, everyone has.
I used to be unhappy. But not just unhappy—miserable.
I’d look at other people and wonder what they had that I didn’t. I was sick of living my life. And being sick of it was the tipping point that changed it all. It’s what got me moving in the direction of what made my heart sing.
As I moved forward, I discovered that what was making me miserable wasn’t outside of me, but the habits I had built up over the years.
I’d like to share with you what those habits were, and how I overcame them.
1. Waiting for clarity.
I thought that in order to do what I loved and be happy, I had to know where I was going.
Turns out that was a mirage. It was a thought that I believed.
When I took action despite feeling confused, and simply did my best, I discovered that I could always take one step forward, clarity or no clarity.
It was like walking in a heavy fog. As long as I kept moving forward, more of my path revealed itself. But if I stood still, nothing would happen.
Fix: Don’t wait for clarity. Listen to your heart, and take one tiny step forward. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
2. Seeking permission from others.
I wanted others to tell me I was on the right track. The more I did this, the emptier I felt inside.
Why? Because I was giving my power away. Instead of listening to my own guidance system, I was relying on someone else. It was confusing and disempowering.
I’ve never had an easy time just trusting life. I worry a lot. But over the years, I’ve realized that trusting myself is the only way toward living a fulfilling life.
Once I stopped trying to seek permission, or figure things out, my inner wisdom grew stronger, because it was no longer clouded by thoughts.
Fix: Don’t look to someone else for validation for your dreams. Go after what makes you come alive. That’s enough.
3. Hoping for future salvation.
Another unhelpful habit I have is living in the future, thinking that reaching my goals will make me happier.
However, I’ve noticed that once again, this is just a thought that I give power to.
I’ve also noticed that I’ve reached plenty of goals that I thought would make me happy, but didn’t.
Like me, you’ve probably heard the following phrase over and over again: “Happiness comes from the inside. It’s available right here, right now.” For a long time, I wondered, “That’s all fine and good, but how do I use that in my life?”
The answer was to witness my thoughts, and let them pass by. I don’t have to believe in every thought that tells me that the future holds the key to my happiness.
Once I let those thoughts pass, I notice that there’s a source of joy within, always available to me.
Fix: When you find yourself living in the future, just notice what you’re doing. Let go of the tendency and observe what’s going on. This is a practice, so don’t worry if you don’t get it perfect.
4. Wanting to take big leaps.
When I get caught up in thinking that the future will save me, I want to take big leaps. I want to hurry to my goal.
Yet this behavior makes reaching my goal less likely. It introduces sloppiness into my work. It produces an aroma of selfishness.
But, if I let things take their time, and if I let those thoughts pass, there’s a sense of peace.
As I write this, I’m not in a hurry. I sense the wanting to finish, but I witness it. I don’t get involved. Then I return my focus to writing, and letting the words flow on paper. And my soul smiles. My heart nods. My breath deepens. I remember: “This is it. This is life.”
Fix: Big leaps assume that happiness is in the future. Take a deep breath. Notice how much happiness is available right now. No big leaps needed, just a remembering of who you are.
Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’” ~Marianne Williamson
Have you ever felt that something was missing in your life?
Who am I kidding, everyone has.
I used to be unhappy. But not just unhappy—miserable.
I’d look at other people and wonder what they had that I didn’t. I was sick of living my life. And being sick of it was the tipping point that changed it all. It’s what got me moving in the direction of what made my heart sing.
As I moved forward, I discovered that what was making me miserable wasn’t outside of me, but the habits I had built up over the years.
I’d like to share with you what those habits were, and how I overcame them.
1. Waiting for clarity.
I thought that in order to do what I loved and be happy, I had to know where I was going.
Turns out that was a mirage. It was a thought that I believed.
When I took action despite feeling confused, and simply did my best, I discovered that I could always take one step forward, clarity or no clarity.
It was like walking in a heavy fog. As long as I kept moving forward, more of my path revealed itself. But if I stood still, nothing would happen.
Fix: Don’t wait for clarity. Listen to your heart, and take one tiny step forward. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
2. Seeking permission from others.
I wanted others to tell me I was on the right track. The more I did this, the emptier I felt inside.
Why? Because I was giving my power away. Instead of listening to my own guidance system, I was relying on someone else. It was confusing and disempowering.
I’ve never had an easy time just trusting life. I worry a lot. But over the years, I’ve realized that trusting myself is the only way toward living a fulfilling life.
Once I stopped trying to seek permission, or figure things out, my inner wisdom grew stronger, because it was no longer clouded by thoughts.
Fix: Don’t look to someone else for validation for your dreams. Go after what makes you come alive. That’s enough.
3. Hoping for future salvation.
Another unhelpful habit I have is living in the future, thinking that reaching my goals will make me happier.
However, I’ve noticed that once again, this is just a thought that I give power to.
I’ve also noticed that I’ve reached plenty of goals that I thought would make me happy, but didn’t.
Like me, you’ve probably heard the following phrase over and over again: “Happiness comes from the inside. It’s available right here, right now.” For a long time, I wondered, “That’s all fine and good, but how do I use that in my life?”
The answer was to witness my thoughts, and let them pass by. I don’t have to believe in every thought that tells me that the future holds the key to my happiness.
Once I let those thoughts pass, I notice that there’s a source of joy within, always available to me.
Fix: When you find yourself living in the future, just notice what you’re doing. Let go of the tendency and observe what’s going on. This is a practice, so don’t worry if you don’t get it perfect.
4. Wanting to take big leaps.
When I get caught up in thinking that the future will save me, I want to take big leaps. I want to hurry to my goal.
Yet this behavior makes reaching my goal less likely. It introduces sloppiness into my work. It produces an aroma of selfishness.
But, if I let things take their time, and if I let those thoughts pass, there’s a sense of peace.
As I write this, I’m not in a hurry. I sense the wanting to finish, but I witness it. I don’t get involved. Then I return my focus to writing, and letting the words flow on paper. And my soul smiles. My heart nods. My breath deepens. I remember: “This is it. This is life.”
Fix: Big leaps assume that happiness is in the future. Take a deep breath. Notice how much happiness is available right now. No big leaps needed, just a remembering of who you are.
Thursday, 17 July 2014
Biz failure? Blame top Management
The myopic view of top management
In Today’s competitive world where the competitors fight neck to neck, the only way to sustain the Competitive Advantage is to not overtly focused on the present but to think on long term perspective.
During my limited corporate experience what I observed with a few of the Organizations were, to my surprise, the Top Management was quite concerned only about the near term gains. Albeit it’s important to focus on near future what’s agonizing is the myopic view of the Top Management.
They clasp the outdated ideologies, hang on to the status quo and fear the slightest change but wish the profits go up year-on-year. In most of the Organizations, the Vision statements are mere wish lists or decorative strings of ornamental words hanging on their websites, with no apparent efforts/plans towards achieving the same.
Why fear the change?
Most Organizations have the capable people who perform their best on a day to day basis but do not have time or willingness to look beyond their current activities. These are the people who keep running relentlessly but do not know why. An Organization definitely needs these people. They make a perfect execution team. But an Organization filled mostly/solely with these type of people would fail in long term.
These types of Organizations fear change because there are no people who could foresee the unforeseen. So, they clasp each others hands, close their eyes tight and say nothing’s going to change. In reality, everything’s changing… at their own pace.
What to do about it?
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Employers and business leaders need people who can think for themselves – who can take initiative and be the solution to problems. – Stephen Covey
As Stephen Covey mentioned, Organizations need people at top who can think and look beyond the status quo. A guy who can take a short break from the rat race and observe from a distance or take an aerial view of the situation and make corrections appropriate.
Top Management or Business owners must actively spot these people either inside the organization or in the market and reward them with right opportunities. Hiring or promoting such strategic thinkers should be seen as long term investment for the Organization rather than as an expense
In Today’s competitive world where the competitors fight neck to neck, the only way to sustain the Competitive Advantage is to not overtly focused on the present but to think on long term perspective.
During my limited corporate experience what I observed with a few of the Organizations were, to my surprise, the Top Management was quite concerned only about the near term gains. Albeit it’s important to focus on near future what’s agonizing is the myopic view of the Top Management.
They clasp the outdated ideologies, hang on to the status quo and fear the slightest change but wish the profits go up year-on-year. In most of the Organizations, the Vision statements are mere wish lists or decorative strings of ornamental words hanging on their websites, with no apparent efforts/plans towards achieving the same.
Why fear the change?
Most Organizations have the capable people who perform their best on a day to day basis but do not have time or willingness to look beyond their current activities. These are the people who keep running relentlessly but do not know why. An Organization definitely needs these people. They make a perfect execution team. But an Organization filled mostly/solely with these type of people would fail in long term.
These types of Organizations fear change because there are no people who could foresee the unforeseen. So, they clasp each others hands, close their eyes tight and say nothing’s going to change. In reality, everything’s changing… at their own pace.
What to do about it?
“
Employers and business leaders need people who can think for themselves – who can take initiative and be the solution to problems. – Stephen Covey
As Stephen Covey mentioned, Organizations need people at top who can think and look beyond the status quo. A guy who can take a short break from the rat race and observe from a distance or take an aerial view of the situation and make corrections appropriate.
Top Management or Business owners must actively spot these people either inside the organization or in the market and reward them with right opportunities. Hiring or promoting such strategic thinkers should be seen as long term investment for the Organization rather than as an expense
Wednesday, 16 July 2014
How to survive office politics
In my view, one of life’s greatest ambitions is to remain authentic. Never underestimate the many circumstances, however, that will challenge your ability to be yourself – particularly early in your career.
Navigating office politics is one of these challenges. It is a high-ranking test of one’s character and belief.
The view of politics from the HoD's helicopter seat is predictable and vivid. It is much easier to see personal agendas, competition, ‘backstabbing’ (a word I loathe), and false relationships at play amongst those eager to succeed. But for the less seasoned professional, workplace politics can be a costly and demoralising distraction.
So, the earlier you learn how to navigate your surrounds, the quicker the career you deserve begins. It took me longer than it should've to work this out. I incorrectly focused on the moments of politics, not the long term game to benefit my career. I was guilty of being distracted by futile, ‘in the moment’ politics. Don’t let that happen to you.
Be better than me – try these tips:
1) Learn how to influence
Influencing is an invaluable asset of leadership, but it is also complex to attain and wield. At the core of effective influencing is the art of building authentic relationships in your work environment. This involves the simple principle of being genuinely curious about people – for instance, their interests, motivations and ambitions. This curiosity should extend beyond just those that you may directly work with. My effectiveness as an influencer came from building broad and honest relationships across the business. While we didn’t always agree on issues, there was a genuine respect for each other. Legitimately getting to know people will more often than not smoke out disingenuous political agendas.
2) Don’t resent others success
This is a sleeping giant. A really important habit to get into is to play your long game – focus on your career, not that of others. In almost every work environment I have been in, the least gracious people are the most unsuccessful. You must learn to appreciate and acknowledge other’s success. I know that can be tough for highly competitive people, but be generous – people will notice. There is nothing more appealing than the genuine support of colleagues. These moments can change the nature of relationships for the better. It also sends a signal that you are above any petty jealousies.
3) Toughen up
As you know in life and business, things are not always fair and reasonable. As a HoD, I always observe people’s reactions to difficult scenarios, such as missing out on a promotion, dealing with confrontation or personality clashes. This is important because if someone exhibits calm, respectful objectivity in such circumstances, it tells me they are building the maturity for greater success into the future. They are developing objectivity. They are toughening up.
4) Ignore the pack
From the moment you walked into the schoolyard, the challenge to be yourself began. To this day, your perception of yourself is, to some extent, shaped by your experiences with people. In almost every work environment, whether it’s a result of a poor work culture, or the convenience of jumping on the bandwagon of popular opinion, pack mentality exists. The most successful people are able to manage and build relationships with many and varied individuals, without ever being pressured, coerced or influenced to join a destructive pack. Always seek to remain a collaborative individual, rather than a compliant groupie.
5) The long game
Don’t let office politics distract you from the long game. Ultimately, the goal of your long game should revolve around three things. Firstly, take every opportunity to build and maintain relationships across the business. Secondly, expose yourself to a variety of environments both within and outside your place of work (through volunteering, for instance). This will provide you with a greater capacity to work alongside people who face different issues and challenges in their respective roles. Last of all, make it your business to position yourself as the person who will help conclude a difficult project, step in to assist when disagreements arise, or provide a positive perspective when others are no longer capable of doing so. By focusing on these three long game objectives, your context and judgement will continue to improve, and you will further insulate yourself from the petty politician(s).
Navigating office politics is one of these challenges. It is a high-ranking test of one’s character and belief.
The view of politics from the HoD's helicopter seat is predictable and vivid. It is much easier to see personal agendas, competition, ‘backstabbing’ (a word I loathe), and false relationships at play amongst those eager to succeed. But for the less seasoned professional, workplace politics can be a costly and demoralising distraction.
So, the earlier you learn how to navigate your surrounds, the quicker the career you deserve begins. It took me longer than it should've to work this out. I incorrectly focused on the moments of politics, not the long term game to benefit my career. I was guilty of being distracted by futile, ‘in the moment’ politics. Don’t let that happen to you.
Be better than me – try these tips:
1) Learn how to influence
Influencing is an invaluable asset of leadership, but it is also complex to attain and wield. At the core of effective influencing is the art of building authentic relationships in your work environment. This involves the simple principle of being genuinely curious about people – for instance, their interests, motivations and ambitions. This curiosity should extend beyond just those that you may directly work with. My effectiveness as an influencer came from building broad and honest relationships across the business. While we didn’t always agree on issues, there was a genuine respect for each other. Legitimately getting to know people will more often than not smoke out disingenuous political agendas.
2) Don’t resent others success
This is a sleeping giant. A really important habit to get into is to play your long game – focus on your career, not that of others. In almost every work environment I have been in, the least gracious people are the most unsuccessful. You must learn to appreciate and acknowledge other’s success. I know that can be tough for highly competitive people, but be generous – people will notice. There is nothing more appealing than the genuine support of colleagues. These moments can change the nature of relationships for the better. It also sends a signal that you are above any petty jealousies.
3) Toughen up
As you know in life and business, things are not always fair and reasonable. As a HoD, I always observe people’s reactions to difficult scenarios, such as missing out on a promotion, dealing with confrontation or personality clashes. This is important because if someone exhibits calm, respectful objectivity in such circumstances, it tells me they are building the maturity for greater success into the future. They are developing objectivity. They are toughening up.
4) Ignore the pack
From the moment you walked into the schoolyard, the challenge to be yourself began. To this day, your perception of yourself is, to some extent, shaped by your experiences with people. In almost every work environment, whether it’s a result of a poor work culture, or the convenience of jumping on the bandwagon of popular opinion, pack mentality exists. The most successful people are able to manage and build relationships with many and varied individuals, without ever being pressured, coerced or influenced to join a destructive pack. Always seek to remain a collaborative individual, rather than a compliant groupie.
5) The long game
Don’t let office politics distract you from the long game. Ultimately, the goal of your long game should revolve around three things. Firstly, take every opportunity to build and maintain relationships across the business. Secondly, expose yourself to a variety of environments both within and outside your place of work (through volunteering, for instance). This will provide you with a greater capacity to work alongside people who face different issues and challenges in their respective roles. Last of all, make it your business to position yourself as the person who will help conclude a difficult project, step in to assist when disagreements arise, or provide a positive perspective when others are no longer capable of doing so. By focusing on these three long game objectives, your context and judgement will continue to improve, and you will further insulate yourself from the petty politician(s).
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